Getting to Happy…..The Real…..


“Yes we fight, yes we are normal, but we do respect and love each other.”
I listened attentively as my friend Sophia explained the relationship between herself and her two sisters. Her eldest sister, on her way back to New York  had dropped in at the hotel here on Miami Beach for a quick hug.

‘Priceless’ ….I looked away smiling to myself, racing thoughts of my own relationship with my three sisters flooded my mind. Being the oldest gave me a heartfelt sense of responsibility, yet admiration for my sisters.

imageEach one of them have their own uniqueness with very strong personalities, but Cathy the one after me and Nat, the youngest were never a force to be reckon with. They both shared many similarities like our mom. They love cooking, shopping and traveling.
Marcel the middle child, ‘Mystic Butterfly’ is the show stopper. She is very adventurous, creative and loves fashion, entertaining and decorating. Her biggest struggle is having to deal with three very over- protective sisters. ( Not to mention our little brother Jason).
A sister-ly relationship is a special one, it can be at times annoying, at times a love- hate one. Tumultuous, emotional, a constant battle, female hormones all over the place. Phone hang ups, screaming matches, but who knows you better than your sister.

imageI just got off the phone with Marcel, we recently shared the same living room space for 6 months while caring for our mom. It was a crazy, sad, exciting, terrible time for us. I really miss her. Here I am once again intruding into her private life, always highly opinionated’… I laughed half- loud to myself… thinking ‘poor soul’ how does she ever manages with sisters like us. I pictured her hanging up the phone with a sigh of relief….For sure she knows she is loved….

imageWe were very close as children growing up. We played amongst each other and were always there for each other. As adults, oftentimes too busy with our own families, it was somewhat difficult making time for each other. We had drifted apart. Mom’s death, the ultimate blow left us looking to each other for answers, comfort and support. The saying ‘what doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger’ definitely applies here. It’s during this difficult time that I can agree, we got so much closer, our sisterly relationship grew stronger.

Recently, Nat and I spent some time in Miami, with Reina, Nat’s daughter. It was beautiful. The four of us sisters now have plans to travel, spend more time together, and to be there for each other. The love we have and the bond we now share, sealed by fate is somehow unbreakable. It seems like déjàvu. It reminds me, as I reminisce of when we were younger, and only had each other……


#Getting to happy, #mindsetmakeover

image#mummy little girls